An-Nisa 128: If a woman fears ill-treatment or desertion from her husband, there is no sin for them to reach an accord. Reaching an accord is always better. And the ego (nafs) is made to incline towards greed. If you live in harmony and fear Allah, Allah is aware of what you are doing.

Surah An-Nisa, verse 128, these verses continue on the subject of women.

If people applied these verses we have read and will read, no human being would suffer injustice. If a woman fears her husband's discord or that he will turn away from her, there is no sin on them if they make peace between them. That is, the woman complains of her husband's discord, what does she do? Or he is going to turn away from her. Then she calls her husband, they make an agreement between them. Peace. Peace is always better, it says. That is, that they talk, that they talk among themselves. Souls are prone to jealousy anyway. If you live well together and fear Allah, Allah is surely aware of what you do.

Yes.

You will live well together. If a woman fears discord from her husband and realizes he will resort to ways such as leaving her, there is no sin on them in making peace, in making peace with her husband. A time comes when a man no longer likes his wife. He wants to divorce her and marry other women. In this case, since a man bears responsibility in conscience, avoiding acts of the nafs, he can come to an agreement with his wife. For example, such as his marrying in addition to his wife: if the wife, to her husband, after he gives her maintenance securing her living, on condition that he does not leave her, if they agree between them, she may consent to her husband's second marriage, or the woman may persuade her husband and keep him with her.

Such an agreement between the parties is always better. Both parties. Good.

This time I noticed quickly.

From this verse we understand that in Islam, with marriage, family life, through the consultation of wife and husband and the free will of both sides, goes on. How beautiful, both sides. That is, if men say, 'I am the man, I will have my way,' act the tyrant and unjustly impose their rule over the woman, such a husband is a wrongdoer. Even if the woman is unfair to her husband, the husband listening to the woman patiently, talking to her with ways of persuading her, or even if she is the kind that does not listen, the husband keeping quiet, and still, if it is for good, for good, keeping his affairs that way is beneficial.

Even if his wife shouts and yells, in the end he sees the good in it and says nothing to her. Yes, that is, this is gentleness. It is gentleness to keep harmony between husband and wife. The whims of the nafs quickly give a person certain feelings, and within these feelings a person wrecks his home. And then he suffers regret. He suffers regret.

did not come into the world for pleasure and amusement. In the world a Muslim will meet with cruelty and hardship. Within that cruelty and hardship he will be patient. With that patience his Lord to himself, his Lord's... he will prove himself to his Lord. That person. He will prove what kind of person he is. Meanwhile, since Allah Almighty will not put on that person's back what he cannot bear, amid cruelty and hardship He will let him taste mercy one day in forty. Yes. In this case a person will be in the service of his Lord, under His command.

From this verse we understand that in Islam marriage and family life goes on through the consultation of wife and husband, through the free will of both sides. Although Allah has made men administrators and rulers over women, He declares that He did not give the woman to the man as a captive. The woman is not the man's captive; the woman has rights over the man, and the man has rights over the woman. Today people who never heed the woman's right, who are known as domineering, who say, 'I am (?), I don't (?) a woman, I don't heed her word', those who say this reveal the weakness of their faith in Islam, how little they know their religion.

Or else it shows how full of whims their nafs is toward Allah Almighty and how little, toward their Lord's (?), they observe the woman's commands.

In the Islamic understanding, men who act against the woman's will are wrongdoers. Men who act against the woman's will are wrongdoers. But listen well, what are we saying? In the Islamic understanding, not in another understanding. In the Islamic understanding, that is, respecting right and law, a husband who does the opposite of what a woman has said is also a wrongdoer. Yes, in the Islamic understanding men who act against the woman's will are wrongdoers. They are people who, by doing injustice, want to rule over women. Allah never approves of such behaviour. This verse proves it. There is no sin on them if they make peace between them.

This verse does not say that the woman cannot voice her own opinion to her husband and that the husband is entitled to do whatever he likes over his wife. Does it say such a thing? No. What does it say? They will make peace. That is, they will talk, they will come to an agreement. Yes.

Allah Almighty is the Possessor of justice and wisdom. There is wisdom in everything He does. In the family order, had Allah created woman complete like men, they would never obey each other, and what is called family life would vanish. The reason: woman has traits of deficient creation. The deficient creation of the nafs. In this case, the woman's traits, the trait of womanhood: being loved, being protected, being attached somewhere, and a security, feeling a security from someone. Women's traits. And the man has these traits: administrator, manager, strong, protector, guardian. Now, within the same traits, if two of these male traits, two of them, were in the woman too, both... they say two roosters don't fit on one dunghill, don't they? There couldn't be two roosters on one dunghill.

So the woman is obedient to her husband, has surrendered to him, he will protect her, he loves her, she relies on him, in hard times and in times of illness he will not leave her alone, so she trusts her husband; such a person, equipped with the states of a soul, how can you in conscience wrong her, push her away, and a person so surrendered to you, how can you disappoint her? This takes conscience, conscience. They say 'conscience', don't they, conscience. Yes. It takes that faith, faith.

Allah established this order by creating one superior to the other, and if one looks carefully, the people of the world find life in the peace of this established order. But by abusing the woman's deficient creation, to gain advantages through women, some enemies of Allah oppose this order and spread corruption everywhere.

Such as?

Saying 'women's rights', (?) women, siding with their nafs and dragging them into misery, and then people who profit from them.

We will come to it, God willing. Let's see what we say there. But by abusing the woman's deficient creation, to gain advantages through women, some enemies of Allah oppose this order and spread corruption everywhere. As if Islam gave women no rights, as if Allah fell short and gave woman to man as a captive, by presenting it so and driving women on their own into un-Islamic acts, discord, divorces and grievances have appeared among families, children born of them, growing up without a mother or father, have begun to suffer hardships. Moreover, by driving them into immoral acts, spreading immorality on earth, abolishing people's beliefs, such people to themselves (?).

Yes.

These are the games of the media. That is, the games of the Dajjal. The Dajjal.

Had Allah Almighty not set up this order like this, people would say to Allah, 'You brought us to earth but set up no order for livelihood and family peace; had it been like this, it would have been better.' So that they would not say this, Allah Almighty set up this order this way. He created woman deficient compared to man. Allah is the One who knows everything truly, who sends His laws for people's comfort. Whoever steps outside it, outside it, becomes a wrongdoer to his own offspring.

The human nafs is jealous anyway. It envies the lives and states of some. Just as man and woman are jealous over each other with regard to others, they cannot bear each other's situation either, and they envy each other too.

How do they envy?

The woman wants to be above her husband in terms of wealth. Or the husband wants to be above the woman in terms of wealth. Or the woman is helpless, that is, she can do nothing; in this case she envies her husband's ability. Or the husband is incapable and the woman capable; the husband envies the woman's ability this time. Envy arises between them. The moment you love them, the moment you love, you will give each other security. Security. You will not make him feel his helplessness. If you make him feel that helplessness, then, in that helplessness, he falls into a feeling of inferiority. Unrest starts at home, and in that unrest your life becomes a dungeon.

If people had each other's characters, they would be robots. People of the same character, if they had the same understanding, the same structures of thought, would be robots. Only those whose minds are close can get along with each other. In this case, since morals, that is characters, are not exactly like a program loaded into a robot, some small (?) programs, people, in the woman or in the man, by losing themselves too, or by consenting to them, turn their family lives into a rose garden.

A human being is one who can erase in himself some wrong acts of another and accept him that way. If in this way he fears Allah, gets on well with his wife and does not cross the lines Allah has shown, that person spends his family life in peace. Allah knows people's intentions and is aware of the deeds they do. Whoever governs himself by Allah's verses is, both in this world and in the hereafter, alive.