An-Nisa 20: If you desire to leave a wife and marry another, even if you gave one of them a large sum as a marriage gift, do not take any of it back from her. Do you desire to take it back by committing a clear sin and slander?

A. Metin Saruhan · 20 November 2017 · An-Nisa

Translation

If you desire to leave a wife and marry another, even if you gave one of them a large sum as a marriage gift, do not take any of it back from her. Do you desire to take it back by committing a clear sin and slander?

Tafsir

In Islam, a man pays a sum of money to his wife when he marries her. This can be money or property. This sum is called mehir. The wife can leave the mahr given to her to her husband as a trust. When a man divorces his wife, he must return the mehr that she has left in trust to the wife he is divorcing. Even if it is a camel's ransom.

Do you commit a blatant sin in the sight of Allah by coveting the mehr of the wife you are divorcing and slandering her in order not to give that money or property to the wife you are divorcing? Such behavior is a sin in the sight of Allah. Things have been created for human beings, and if a person covets these things or material things and exchanges them for human beings, then he has wronged his own soul and become a sinner in the sight of Allah. He has disobeyed the command of Allah (swt) against the desires and wishes of his own nafs.

O people! Do not play with the honor and dignity of your wives entrusted to you by coveting worldly goods, by amusing yourselves and satisfying your lustful feelings through fornication. Get along well with them and fulfill your promises to them. Fear Allah and return to the women whom you divorce their mahr.

What is said in the video

If you wish to leave one wife and take another wife in her place, even if you had given one of them a dowry of loads, take nothing back from her. Would you take it back by slander and committing an open sin, He says.

Suppose a man wanted to divorce his wife.

He gave her a dowry of camel loads. Camel loads. And when divorcing, he set his eyes on that dowry. And wanted to take back part of it. In this case Allah Almighty steps in. He guides us. Never do such a thing, He says. never do such a thing. Why? Look why. If you wish to leave one wife and take another in her place, even if you had given one of them a dowry of loads, even if you had given a dowry of loads, take nothing back from her. When Allah's command says take nothing back, you will not take it. That's it. You gave it; it goes to her. Would you take it back by slander or by committing an open sin?

That is, could you slander against Allah, saying Allah said no such thing?

Do you know where the beauty of this lies? This verse says, do not leave your wife lightly. Do not leave your wife lightly. People are oriented toward this world.

'Property is a chip off the soul,' as it says somewhere. Well, if you gave her a good deal of property, donated land, if in the dowry you gave a bit more, since property is a chip off the soul, you cannot divorce her easily. You won't take it back. You fear Allah. See how beautiful. Allah Almighty (?) women their rights. They say 'civil code'. Which civil code? And they shout, 'sharia is coming'. Which sharia? Which civil code? Can you compare these? With each other. Calling it a civil code. Could these ever have anything in common? One is a law made according to human right, the other a law that, without lacking anything, protects human rights.

Go ahead. You can turn whichever way you want, you can choose in this case. You can choose whichever law you want. Because people are free in their own (?).

What does Allah Almighty say in (?)? As you are, so are the rulers you bring over yourselves, He says. Yes.

In Islam, when a man marries, he pays a sum to the wife he takes. This is what we call the dowry right. This can be money or property. This sum is called mahr. The wife can leave the dowry right given to her with her husband as a trust.

or to her husband she can give it as a gift.

Or she lends it as a loan. Or she keeps it herself. That is, this is entirely within the woman's will.

The wife can leave the dowry right given to her with her husband as a trust. When a man sets out to divorce his wife, the dowry his wife left with him as a trust he must return to the wife he is divorcing. Even if this dowry were camel loads.

Coveting the dowry of the wife he will divorce, so as not to give that property or money to the wife you divorced, slandering her, would you attempt an open sin in Allah's sight? That is, 'my wife did shameful things.' 'So I am right to take back part of it.' Can you say that? Can you slander chaste women? Chaste women. This only — this only those who are not in their own religion but holders of ideologies would slander. Slandering chaste women. These are major sins.

Coveting the dowry of the wife he will divorce, so as not to give that property and money to the wife you divorced, would you slander her and attempt an open sin in Allah's sight?

Such behaviour is among the major sins in Allah's sight. Major sins. Things are created for people. Man covets these things, or matter. (?) these things — things are created for people.

Is there a verse? Hodja, about these things being created for people — of course there is. If He made you vicegerent of the earth, He put all these things He created under your conception — He gave them into your (?), your disposal. You have the right to dispose of it as you wish. But not wastefully. Yes.

Such behaviour is a sin in Allah's sight. Things are created for people. If a person covets these things, or matter, and (?), that person in Allah's sight has wronged his own self and become a sinner. He has traded Allah Almighty's command for the desires and wishes of his own nafs. What does Allah Almighty say? Even if it is loads full, to that woman, to the wife you will divorce, give it. Even if it be loads full. Because things are created for people, and Allah's word, do not trade it for things. That's one. You are divorcing your wife. Maybe she has nothing to hold on to. With the dowry you gave, she will find life, protect her chastity, protect her honour, and not let people say 'she was so-and-so's wife'.

In this case, wouldn't a person help her protect her human dignity? Especially for his own wife. Even if he doesn't love her, even if he doesn't want her, since (?), at least, for the sake of Allah's pleasure, so that she is not pushed onto a bad path, do not take back her dowry.

O people, entrusted to you — your wives — coveting worldly goods, amusing your nafs and satisfying your lusts through adultery, do not toy with women's honour and dignity. Live well with them and keep the promises you gave them. Fear Allah and return to the women you divorce their dowries.

People are obliged to stay true to the promises they give. Why obliged? The Prophet, too, says: take on the character of Allah. Allah Almighty says in His verse: who is as true to his word as Allah? So if Allah Almighty says to people, who is as true to his word as Allah, since people do not know (?) of the future, since no one can be as true to his word as Allah — at least, to take on Allah's character, his keeping the promise he gave shows, toward his Lord, that person's sincerity and heartfelt closeness. Yes.